Getting divorced can raise some significant school-related questions. Some of them may include:
- Do you need to move?
- If so, does that take your children out of their current school?
- If you split custody, can you both get them to the same school?
- If they have to switch schools, who gets to decide where they’ll go?
- How much say should your children have in a case like this?
These are important questions to ask, and the answers are different for everyone. There is one thing that is always important and always the same, however. As you answer the questions, you need to always focus on the children and their best interests.
It’s easy to let your ego get in the way. You want to move and send the children to a new school. Your ex does not want them to switch schools. Rather than listening to his or her reasoning, you double down on wanting to switch and dig in your heels. Why? Because you want to be the one who makes the decision. You want to “win” so that your spouse loses.
But who really loses? The children. This isn’t a game to them. It is their life. It’s important to them. Their needs have to come first. If you and your ex can set aside what you want or how you feel and instead make decisions that put them first, the end result is going to make them happier and help them do better in the classroom.
As you and your ex work through these and related issues during a divorce, it is also important to know what rights you have and what steps you can take. With an experienced attorney’s assistance, it’s often easier to sort through these processes.