If you have recently started to co-parent your children, there is a lot for you to consider.
Co-parenting can become a struggle for a lot of newly divorced parents. According to Today’s Parent, there are ways that you can make the whole process easier. Here are some actions to avoid.
Refuse to communicate
Communication is critical in co-parenting strategies. You need to find the ways of communication that work best for your relationship. Some parents, for example, have the best communication through text message or e-mail, as opposed to in-person or on the phone. Never use your child as the messenger.
Get too personal
There may be many messy feelings following a divorce, but you do not want those to get in the way of parenting. Do not argue with your ex in front of your children or insult him or her. Try to remain as respectful as possible, even when speaking with your ex. If you need to vent, do so with your friends and close family but never with your ex-spouse or children.
Make everything equal
Do not make the mistake to think that fair and equal are the same. When co-parenting, you have to consider your situation and your spouse’s situation. For example, if your child went to sports practice with your ex every weekend, but you have him or her on the weekends, you may want to consider letting your ex continue that part of the routine.
When it comes to successful co-parents, many schedule days where the two can meet to discuss their children and their current progress. Both parents need to be heavily involved with the children’s lives.